This Memorial Day I had the opportunity to speak with some young men about life. I feel that everyday there is something new to learn and on this particular day, I learned something that was very interesting called “The 7-11 Rule.”

The rule is that within the first 7 seconds of seeing someone new, you find 11 reasons why you will or will not vibe with this person. I’ve heard this same principle explained in a different way, but “The 7-11 Rule” is more concise.

So the next time you see someone new, see if you can realize within the first 7 seconds of seeing them if you start brain chatter about whether you think this person is someone you will or will not vibe with.

Enjoy!

Well, it was time to refresh the look. So I put a little something together to reflect how I currently feel about my possibilities in life. Endless! (The main reason I used the space background that I created in Photoshop - I’ll post the link for the tutorial later if you want it. Just leave me a comment.)

I recently launched a project that I’ve been working on for a while now. It’s a blog about web development, social media, freelancing, and Wordpress theme development called DesnDev. My goal with this project is to get a website up and running and publishing content.

I’m also working on documenting and tweaking some of my marketing skills. Once I’ve gather the data and resources I need, I’ll put out a special report or something possibly.

So enough with the jibber jabber, here’s the link: DesnDev

I’m on this legend shit man
I’ll change ya life
Like Malcolm X said
By any means necessary I’ll take ya wife

But don’t be mad at me
Just charge it to the game
Like Visa & Mastercard
Just swipe here & sign ya name

Cuz you womans mine now
And it’s by her choice
All I had to do was open my mouth
And let her hear my voice

So swag it up B
Don’t be made at me
Cuz Im a legend man
And that just how its gon be…

Earlier today while I was eating my Apple Cinnamon Quaker Oats, I was listening to one of the many podcast that I follow to help make my a person of value (f.y.i. that’s what real legends do — take the time and effort to educate themselves — and I’m a legend). The show was on building up your inner came (i.e. self-confidence) and there was an interesting point that was brought up about having selective hearing.

In a nutshell, selective hearing is choosing who to listen to and who to ignore. So how do you implement it.

Well…

1. Decide Who It Is You Are Going To Listen To

In order for this to work, you have to be honest with yourself. There is a little tape record that has been implanted in the back of your head by your parents and other people you trust that is causing you to dream extremely small, and live a mediocre life. Turn it off!

If you’re reading this, you’re old enough to make decisions on your own and think for yourself. So do so.

If a person doesn’t have what you want, and I mean your broke pastor who thinks he can give his congregation financial advice, your parents who work 9-5 (and by no means am I attacking them, but if you’re here I doubt that’s the lifestyle you want), your best friend Jimmy who always has something negative to say (realize that people feel threaten by your progress and will do what ever it takes to knock off your success regardless of the situation), then stop listening and taking to heart what they do tell you. Separate yourself from the negative vibes. Until you do so, those people will continue to suck the ambition and hope out of you.

2. Associate With People Who Are Better Than You & People Who Are As Ambitious As You

As I stated earlier, when you hang around people who do not have what you want, their frame of mind starts to influence your current frame of mind. I know that when we were all kids we had big goals and ambitions. We thought really highly of ourselves and had high expectations. But as we got older, all the negativity that our parents were encountering, our friends, our pastors, the school principal, sucked all the life out of our dreams and got us thinking that in order to be successful in life we had to go to school, get good grades, and once we graduate their would be a $45,000 9-5 waiting on us to work for them for 40 years for a gold watch and tapped pension plan to end our lives on. Please…

If this has happened to you, get away from these people. If you see someone at your school, your work, in your community that you admire, and who has what you want, go find out about them. Most of the time these people are looking to talk to people who want what they have. So associate with them. Associate with the people who want success, wealth, good fortune, and an abundant lifestyle just as much as you do.

Now this does not mean that you have to completely cancel out the losers in your life (because that’s what they are — remember, winners create, while losers critique, and I guarantee you that 9/10 people you hangout with CRITIQUE what the winners are doing all day), but when you do decide to take action, put forth an effort to making yourself a better person, get away from the losers. Like I said earlier, misery loves company and the moment these people see you succeeding, they automatically get threatened by it because they’re still sitting on their ass WAITING for someone to give them a free hand out.

You can still go out with these people (I don’t see why though — I only want to associate with winners), have dinner, get some drinks at the bar. But when it comes time to take care of business, get as far away from those losers as possible.

3. Stay Away From Home If It Sucks All The Energy & Ambition Out Of You

This may be hard for some of you kids who are still in college, but the fact of the matter is that it happens and is happening to a lot of you out there. And this goes for all you recent and not so recent graduates as well.

When I was in school I rarely went home. And home was only an hours drive away. However, even in my young, immature days, I still realized that when I did go home, I got all the energy and ambition sucked out of my because 9/10 times know one at homes is doing what you ware doing, and desires the type of lifestyle you desire. They may definitely ask for success, but like 95% of the population, they ask for success but prepare for failure. I didn’t want to have the life sucked out of me, so I stay at school. And if you are feeling this way every time you go home, maybe you should do the same.

You have to separate yourself from the drama and negativity. I don’t understand this but for some reason, us humans love making other peoples problems our own.

We can be cruising along through our day on 100% energy level, see someone who’s put-putting along at 30%, stop to talk to them and eventually have our energy level trickle down to 70%.

Sorry, but that’s not for me. Suck it up and stop complaining (know ones really listening anyways). I have places to be, things to do, people to meet, and money to receive, and I’ll be damned if I let someone else problems stop my from receiving the success that is my divine right to have.

So to wrap it all up,

1. Decide Who It Is You Are Going To Listen To - Particularly People Who Have What You Want
2. Associate With People Who Are Better Than You & People Who Are AS Ambitious As You
3. Stay Away From Home If It Sucks All The Energy & Ambition Out Of You

Feel free to comment and if you would like to talk, feel free to email me: dhane@dhanecrowley.com.

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*Note to all haters (a.k.a losers): Please comment! I need to add 10 new haters by the end of the month because there’s plenty more where that came from